So…Should I Text Him First? This is question that you may ask yourself when you spot a man that you like. He may be a workmate, classmate, and friend of a friend or someone whose mobile number you can get. You may however feel uncertain about making the first move through a text message. Love is a wondrous, beautiful thing but it can also break a heart when feelings are one-sided.
You may however need to do some nudging to get his attention and direct it your way so that the relationship, if there will be one, can get a chance to develop. So after a lot of hesitation, second guessing yourself but feeling determined, you decide to go on and send that message.
The first message should be friendly and casual. You may also want to introduce yourself and how you got their number. For instance, you can say, ‘Hi John, this is Jen from the accounts office. Tim gave me your number when we were talking about the upcoming charity function.’ Make the message short and straight to the point. Mention something specific that he can also refer to when getting back in touch with you.
In this case, you have found out there’s an upcoming charity event at work. And a friend has told you he’s into running. You can invite him to pair up with you to train for the run or other activity. In this case, you know he enjoys running and would probably say yes to training with you.
How do I Get Him to Text Me?
This opens up the conversion so he is likely to get back to you. He may reply to ask what you are doing for the function in which case you can mention that you are a runner too and was wondering whether he’d like to train with you. You can also mention another hobby or interest you have found out he has which could be pets, traveling, politics or anything else.
Hopefully, you do get a text back and it goes back and forth until he decides to call you, drops by your desk if you work in the same building or asks if he can stop by or invites you over if you are neighbors. Over time, the phone calls will increase in length, frequency and intensity meaning that things will be simmering nicely.
No Response: Should I Have Texted Him?
Perhaps things don’t go like you hoped. He doesn’t respond with any kind of interest or appreciation. You may thinking about, should I text him first again? Before you despair, do give it one last try. Text him something more direct. Ask him whether he’d like to meet up for a drink, attend an event or do something together. If you don’t get an equally direct and positive response, then it would be best to leave things as they are.
Another rule to live or text by is give the other person time. If you are texting for the first time and the person didn’t give you their cell number but you got it from someone else, use a soft touch. Be general and don’t badger them with message after message. Wait until the next day and follow up, asking if they got the text. You should also text within reasonable hours, meaning not very early in the morning and not too late at night.
If a man genuinely likes you, he will seek you out and try to spend some time with you. He’ll constantly text or call to make plans for lunch, after work or the weekend. Hopefully, this will develop into his wanting to factor you into his future plans.
What About Romantic Text Messages?
If you have captured his heart or at least his interest, you man will want to do things for you. He’ll want to pick you up at the office in the middle of his working day and get some lunch with you, take you to dinner in a swanky place, surprise you with a bouquet of flowers and make plans for the weekend.
He will also not mind making sacrifices for you such as sorting out your broken down car.
If the man you were biting your nails about wondering, should I text him first becomes your boyfriend, you will look back and be glad that you did. When things get to this point, don’t let the texts stop there. Keep things sizzling with sweet text messages. Send him some Cute Boyfriend Texts suggesting plans for the evening, for the weekend or thanking him for flowers or something nice he did for you. Hint that you intend to repay him and hint at plans you have made or something you will be getting him.
Keep in Touch With Yourself
A common mistake women make is to give their new beau all the attention and very little or none to friends and even themselves. As the relationship progresses, loosen your grip on your precious one and turn the focus on someone else…yourself. Take time out often to and pay yourself as much attention as you normally give the other person. Leaving them with all the things you do they take for granted may wake up to the fact that things are very different without you around.
When you are alone, think about what makes you happy and get to integrating these things into your life from a new hair color, going back to school, changing or searching for a job, moving away or whatever will be a step in the quest to find and fulfill yourself.
Yes, Definitely: Sent Sweet Texts to Him
If your beau keeps making plans to see you, keeps the Sweet Text Messages and calls coming, you have captured his interest and perhaps his heart. So the answer to the question that started it all off should I text him first, is a definite yes. Look where it got you. If you haven’t sent that first text yet, think about where it could get you.